You might not want to admit it, but there's a good chance that you'll experience a mid-life crisis to some degree as you reach your late 30s and early 40s. Many men deal with a mid-life crisis productively and it's more of a new awakening for them. Others, however, go through a number of negative emotions that create life-changing thoughts and actions. It doesn't have to be this way, though. If you have a family, you especially want to make sure that you don't fall prey to the negativity that a mid-life crisis can create. If you're going through a mid-life crisis right now, there are some ways to deal with it listed below. You can also use these suggestions to help prevent a crisis from happening even if you haven't reached that stage in life just yet.
- Look ahead to the future. One of the most depressing things about a mid-life crisis is the realization that you likely have fewer years ahead of you than you do behind you. But this doesn't need to be disheartening. Reflect on how your years of experience can guide you through the rest of your life and help you make better decisions in the upcoming years. Make new plans to refocus your life and build on the experiences you've had during your lifetime. Use this as a launch pad and get excited about what lies ahead. By doing this, you can increase your successes and enjoy your life even more than you have up until now.
- Realistically evaluate your accomplishments. You probably haven't written the "Next Great American Novel" or cured any terminal illnesses during your lifetime, but chances are that you've created quite a list of accomplishments during your years on planet Earth. If you can't think of any yourself, sit down with some friends and family members and create a written list. If you're married and have kids, there's two positive accomplishments right there. Post the list somewhere where you'll see it everyday until you overcome any negative feelings that typically accompany a mid-life crisis.
- Prioritize your life. Some men get overwhelmed by the number of obligations they have as they get older. Between family, work, and other obligations, it might seem impossible to fulfill all of these responsibilities. But if you realistically prioritize and make a written list of your obligations, you'll see that there are some more important than others. Then, simply focus on the most important ones, starting with your family and your career. You'll find yourself less overwhelmed and more focused than you did before.
- Don't make big decisions alone. One of the stereotypes of men going through a mid-life crisis is that they buy a brand new, cherry red Corvette convertible and new clothes. But this can cause more stress during this period in your life. Instead, buy smaller things that make you feel better and don't make any large purchasing decisions without first discussing it with your wife or another family member. This will save some embarrassment and probably even a large amount of debt.
- Talk to family and friends. It's not easy for men to talk about their feelings. In fact, it's almost unheard of for some men. But don't go through a mid-life crisis alone. If you're having negative emotions, feeling overwhelmed or inadequate about your life, talking to your friends and family can often help you through this troubling time. They can only help if they know what you're feeling, so include them on your thoughts when you feel down. Some of them may have even had similar experiences and they can offer some helpful advice to help you get through the crisis.
- Get treatment for any physical or sexual issues that you have. Problems like these can only add to your negative feelings during this trying time. Sexual problems like erectile dysfunction can also cause you to feel inadequate or cause extra stress in your marriage. Seek professional help to take care of these problems before they make your mid-life crisis even worse.
- Stay in control. By this time in your life, you should know exactly who you are as a person. Don't let the feelings associated with a mid-life crisis change that. Make a conscious effort to deal with the feelings you're experiencing. It might take some extra mental work to rethink these feelings and turn them into positive motivators, but it will help you emerge from the mid-life crisis with a better perspective and outlook on life.