My 3 year old only wants Mommy.
Submitted by w.r.ford on January 10, 2010 - 1:29am.
My 3 year old does not want my help at night. She wakes up and wants Mommy. If I try to to help my wife and comfort our daughter, she ends up throwing a fit because she wants Mommy. She will spend up to an hour in her fit until my wife goes to her room and rocks her back to sleep. Does anyone know what I can do to help my wife and get our daughter to accept my help?
Re: My 3 year old only wants Mommy.
What you can do is:
1. Communicate with You Wife. Let her know how it makes you feel. We respond to feelings. And that you want to be a part of comforting your daughter. Yo may also want to see if there are other areas in the relationship with your daughter where she discounts your authority in favor of Mom. She a smart little angel!
2. Look at the Schedule. Look at your schedule to see if your daughter is getting up for attention or because she has had a lack of physical activities.
3. Stick with It. Stick with being the person to comfort your daughter, but be careful that it does not become a thing that your daughter is using to avoid going to bed. They are extremely smart, she already knows that if she keeps up enough fuss she will get Mommy.
4. Quality Time. Consider having Daddy-Daughter time with her. Take her with you when you go places and spend time playing with her, doing the things that she loves to do, and have her "cuddle" with you while watching TV or reading her favorite books. And when, there are "ouchies" or she is upset with other things begin being the person who solves them or comforts her in those situations. These are ways to have her look to you for comfort.
Girls need their Daddy's especially when we are little, even if we do not know it. Use these and I'm sure you'll see a difference.
Sidney
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